Adab
How we treat each other
Adab is the way we behave with people. This is written together — not handed down.
Our adab agreements are shared with your household, so they need you signed in. Nothing is lost meanwhile — sign in whenever it suits.
Our agreement
Add the lines everyone genuinely agrees to.
Nothing agreed yet. The suggestions below are only starting points.
Ideas you could borrow
A gentle check-in
Read these aloud together whenever it feels right — no scoring.
- · What has felt good between us lately?
- · Where have we struggled?
- · Are we speaking to each other respectfully?
- · Is anyone feeling unheard?
- · Are we arguing in a way we'd want to be remembered for?
- · Does anyone owe an apology?
- · Is there something we should repair?
Nothing said in this check-in is recorded. What matters is that it was said out loud.
How is your heart?
For when someone seems quieter than usual.
Repair the relationship
Private to this screen. Nothing is saved, nothing is shared, nobody is told.
What happened?
What was I feeling?
Did I hurt or wrong someone?
What part of this was mine?
Do I owe an apology?
Is there something I need to forgive?
What could I do differently next time?
When you're ready: "I was wrong about that, and I'm sorry."